Living among others
How does someone stay free for God while living at close quarters with people they did not choose? By taking every irritation as a craftsman's tool and leaving other people's affairs alone.
The precautions arm a member of the order against three enemies, three rules each. Against the world: love everyone equally, relatives included, own nothing, and never discuss what goes on in the community, for Lot's wife turned back to look and became salt. Against the devil, who tempts the devout with things that look good: do nothing good outside obedience. Against the flesh: let each brother who tries you work on you as the polisher, the painter and the gilder work on a statue.
- detachment
- humility
- obedience
- community
- solitude
- silence
- temptation
- mortification
- self-denial
- spiritual discipline
- discernment
- spiritual direction
Enter a dialogue
- Your precautions ask that every irritating brother work on us like a polisher on a statue. Why welcome the very people who grate on us?
- Your first precaution asks people to love their own relatives no more than strangers. How can loving family less be a step toward loving God more?
- Lot's wife looked back at Sodom and was turned to salt. Why is someone who keeps watching what others in their community do wrong making her mistake?
- A nun writes about extraordinary experiences in her prayer, and you advise stopping her writing. Why judge her by her humility rather than by those experiences?
- Someone keeps up only the spiritual practices they enjoy and quietly drops the disagreeable ones. Why, by your precautions, will such a person never outgrow their self-love?