What Makes Two People Friends
Begun as a lesson in courtship and turned into an inquiry, it asks what actually binds two friends — and finds every answer gives way.
Asked to help the lovesick Hippothales win the boy Lysis, Socrates instead demonstrates the puzzle: what makes a friend? He tries like drawn to like, opposite needing opposite, and the good loved by what is neither good nor bad — each collapses under him. The little dialogue ends with Socrates and the boys still calling one another friends without being able to say why. Brief and inconclusive, it nonetheless put friendship permanently on the table; Aristotle's long analysis of philia takes up the very puzzles it leaves open.
- friendship
- desire
- love
- value
- affinity
- good and evil
- rhetoric
- authority
- dialectic
- education
- knowledge
Enter a dialogue
- Two people call each other friends but cannot say what binds them. Does the bond need explaining to be real?
- You try like-draws-to-like, then opposite-needs-opposite, and both fail. Is friendship perhaps not the sort of thing with a cause?
- Is a friend loved for the good he brings or for himself? How would you tell the two apart?
- Hippothales wanted help winning the boy he loved. What must he give up if love is not simply desire for the like?
- How can a person seek friendship well when not one of the usual accounts of what draws friends together survives?