What Makes Two People Friends
Begun as a lesson in courtship and turned into an inquiry, it asks what actually binds two friends — and finds every answer gives way.
Asked to help the lovesick Hippothales win the boy Lysis, Socrates instead demonstrates the puzzle: what makes a friend? He tries like drawn to like, opposite needing opposite, and the good loved by what is neither good nor bad — each collapses under him. The little dialogue ends with Socrates and the boys still calling one another friends without being able to say why. Brief and inconclusive, it nonetheless put friendship permanently on the table; Aristotle's long analysis of philia takes up the very puzzles it leaves open.
- friendship
- desire
- love
- value
- affinity
- good and evil
- rhetoric
- authority
- dialectic
- education
- knowledge
Enter a dialogue
- A father whose son has drunk hemlock suddenly prizes the wine that might save him. Does he love the wine, or only his son?
- Two people call each other friends but cannot say what binds them. Does the bond need explaining to be real?
- An old poet says potter quarrels with potter and beggar with beggar, while the poor need the rich. Does friendship then need difference, not likeness?
- A boy's loving parents won't let him drive their chariot, yet a hired slave does. Your Socrates says love follows usefulness. Is that all love is?
- A lover fills his beloved's ears with praise before he has won him. Why does your Socrates call that a hunter frightening his own prey?